What is your reaction if I will tell you that Motivation will fail you in your life. You will not agree with me but let me explain you with a Bhagavad Gita guide. 2024 has come And I just have one request from you don’t make new year resolutions You know, why? Let me explain you with an example. Once you light match stick, suddenly its temperature rises up to 700 degrees Celsius but, for how much time does it stay there? Match stick doesn’t burn for much time but If you keep it holding then it can burn you.
Motivation is something like this only at the start, it is very high to do something big making big promises and thinking something new and amazing. The motivation in January is very high, Gyms are full, everyone gets up early, they buy books make promises to themselves that this year will be different but, every year after 365 days same promises get repeated calendar pages get flipped but we are at the same place.
Motivation is a scam It’s a lie, a cheat, what’s the truth? How can we make this year better than the previous one? Let’s ask this question to “Bhagvadgeeta” And in just 3 steps, Let’s understand the formula to win this year.
Bhagavad Gita Chapter 6 and Verse 19 | Where does failure starts ?
A question for you where does failure starts? We always do the same mistake that we try to control our mind we hide the whole truth from ourself and this is the start of failure. In Bhagavad Gita’s Chapter 6 and Verse 19 an example of a lamp is given A lamp which is in a room where no wind enters so nothing can shake the flame and nothing can blow the flame the flame is steady but, is our mind steady? No. Why ?
Motivation Trap: Instagram, Social media and People around
we are always surrounded by influences, Instagram is the biggest cheat when I see my friends on Instagram I feel everyone’s life is set they are getting both they are getting success in work and also getting holidays for vacations their relationships are strong and fitness too, Every weekend, they try out new types of food but, still they are fit. All the fatness is attracted to me only?
Research says that, 40% people around the world consider themselves ugly or unattractive When? When they use Instagram today, our circle of influence is so big that We have information overload. Our flame can never be steady because winds are flowing so fast. The number 1 actionable tip is to stop believing social media Identify, upon watching whose stories do you feel insignificant you feel small you feel that you lack something you are being left behind Just unfollow them. Really, if after reading my article you feel negative then do not read me.
Today, there is a mute option on Instagram too so, if can’t unfollow you can mute their posts or stories. Trust me start the new year by removing negativity, clean up your circle Even your social circle. Let’s move ahead…
Overcommit and Undershare: Why Your New Year’s Resolutions Crumble
Let’s understand the new year resolutions, which people have at the start of the year why do they fail? There are only two reasons We overcommit and undershare what does it mean?
Overcommit
We overcommit to ourselves If we were getting up at 10am every morning then suddenly on the 1st January we take a resolution to wake up at 5am which is successful only for 2 days Why? Because, we have overcommitted Our body doesn’t have that habit We continue sleeping at 2 am only But, tell our body to getup at 5 am. You may know that sleep is our superpower when our sleep is not completed Then we feel tired the whole day, We torture our body ourself become a villain of our body itself.
Hey, what is this? The better method is to understand this thing that progress happens step by step only small steps simple steps long lasting steps life is not a T20 match but a test match here we have to stay on the crease for long, Then what is the actionable step?
Everyday, wake up half an hour early give the body time to adjust And most importantly start sleeping half an hour early. Don’t control the body instead co-operate with it. Shri Krishna will support you because he has promised it in Bhagavad Gita that
“I myself get inspired from your sacrifice I feel happy after watching your struggle I am attached to your sacrifices and I will help you in this actionable.”
Shri Krishna
Let say, you have to go for a long journey then google map gives you the information only for the next turn you also have to focus only on the next turn itself If there are potholes on the road then you have to avoid them and travel safely. One someday you will encounter a speed breaker on the road some day your resolution will break. The trick is to not take a break for 2 days back to back and you are not alone in this journey
Undershare
New year resolutions fail because we under share. You are the average of 5 people. You spend most time with this means that your new year resolutions fail because no matter how disciplined you are the people around you do motivate you and they can distract you from your goal and hence, you won’t be there on track for long and they are not at mistake here instead you are because, usually what happens is that we quietly write our goals in our diary we don’t tell it to anyone You know why?
Because the real truth is that we fear from failure If we commit this year that we have to reduce 5 kgs of weight and tell it to everyone and if at the end of the year the weight did not decrease, then? What if we fail? I will become a joke. This fear is what stops us from telling our goals to other people and if we don’t tell our goals to other people then how will they help us? How will they become our companion if we don’t ask only.
Wu Wei (Not forcing)
There is one simple way which is “wu wei” Wu means not and Wei means forcing. Have you ever seen your favourite comedian on stage? Or have you seen your favourite artist performing? Does it ever feel that they are taking much efforts? Do you ever feel that they are forcing much? No, right? It feels like this work is so easy for them. They are made for this work because they have connected the concept of Wu Wei with their work, They have connected it to their daily routine and have bought a flow in their career. Forget about career But, we can bring this flow in our day to day life.
We can make difficult things, effortless How? By increasing accountability, share your goals with someone close to you, Make them your companion report to them, Take help from them If you can’t share your goals with your friends then that means that you are not convinced, You are fearful and You don’t trust yourself that you will achieve them. That’s why you want to keep them secret.
Don’t cover your inner light in the darkness of doubts but, Shri Krishna had said that
Those who can see your inner light They can directly connect with the divine power and this power can be visible to you in any form It may happen.
Shri Krishna
That rope is of your friend or mine, Your friend or I am not great, Great is that energy who has chosen us as a medium to talk to to you in a language which you can understand.
I talked about a match stick which is like your motivation for how much time can you be dependent on motivation? If you stay dependent on motivation for long then you are at loss But, use this motivation for a small action not suddenly but, slowly, Not just one day everyday. Small steps, simple steps which will take you forward. If you want to make every day of this year a memorable one then do take up this challenge I promise, you won’t regret and in this journey trust me you are not alone Shri Krishna is with you.
Believe The monk which is in you the right thoughts Shri Krishna will protect them Similarly, the termites which are inside your mind Which are making you your enemy Shri Krishna will fight with them and for this purpose He is ready to come here, come inside your house, to hold your hand, is ready to guide you only your permission is needed, So this year stop being dependent on motivation take just one step everyday one simple step and with every step Shri Krishna is with you.
